So I have always wondered what people think about picking their favorite people. I personally dislike choosing favorites, because there will always be those people who are like "what about me?!" I however will obviously like some people more than others. I have not seen anyone to agree with this, but that is why I am making a thread. Post below if you choose favorites, why or why not. What moofink said. The question is more: do you express who your favorites are? Vote accordingly to that question.
It's human nature/psychology to pick "favorite" people, but "favorite" can be translated in many ways for everyone. It is more a matter of, "Do I pick favorites silently, verbally, or physically?" For me, without wanting to, and sometimes not realizing, I pick favorites silently (mentally). It's usually the people I like more than others, because that is, in many ways, "favorite" people. I never publicly pick favorites, though, unless I am forced to. So overall, I do not CHOOSE to pick favorites, but as a human, I do whether I want to or not. I'd rather not pick any if I don't have to, but I do without even realizing it. :/
True, I guess what you said about picking favorites silently was more what I was going for. So the question is really do you express who your favorites are.
I express who my favorites are by how i act towards them vs. how i act towards others. And I generally have very few "favorites" It's just like IRL where I have a few close friends and then "everyone else" But I don't go around pointing out to everyone who my favorite are or are not.
I do. It establishes confidence in my opinion. my general strategy is to let pretty much everyone I get marginally close to know exactly how I feel, so that there are no surprises. Additionally, whether you want to or not, you WILL express to people who your favorite people are. it might be directly, or it might be through indirect actions, but in one way or another you can find out anyone's favorite people if you pay attention to them.
So I see that most people do show their favorites. I would like to know how you deal with the people who think that they are your favorites, but they really aren't. (if that makes any sense at all) That is really the only thing holding me back. rabidworm dork1877 MoofinK
But I don't go around pointing out to everyone who my favorite are or are not. If no one knows who is or who isn't a "favorite" than there is really nothing to deal with. I treat everyone equally. People I generally like get treated well. People I generally don't care about about I am polite but I don't engage in conversation or activity. People I dislike, I make look like the buttheads and fools they are errrrr I mean ignore and leave alone.
Well duh you aren't going to be like "hey <usersname> guess who is my favorite? NOT YOU HAHAHA" What you said there just described what I've been doing... not the crossed out area though >.< people are taking this so wrong. I just see a lot of people saying "you are my favorite <3" to one another in public. Or at least obviously hinting to it. I don't feel bad for not being someone's favorite, but I see that some do. And that is why I don't make it public. I do have favorites, but they know who they are, thus I don't need to point it out.
actually i generally treat my very favorites like crap but in a very tongue in cheek way. in global i talk crap about navy but he is one of my most favorite people on the server. I'm like that IRL. I generally mess with the people i like because THEY know I like them and i'm trying to be funny.
IRL its even worse. I am constantly doling out massive amounts of BS to the coworkers that I like the most. Usually the more I like them the more BS I give to them. But they return it all in-kind, making it a full circle of $#!T giving.
Tell them. This usually doesn't happen to me, since I express it very explicitly. but if it does, just say so. the easiest way I have found to do it, which seems mean but I still believe is one of the best solutions, is just tell them somehting along the lines of "Sorry man, but Pbrass is one of my best friends so ima go play SG with him. but you are welcome to join us if you want!" that way it both conveys the inevitable fact that I hold Pbrass as a best friend and them as not, and prevents from simply ignoring them or blowing them off.
I don't really know anyone who thinks they are my favorite, but aren't (at least as far as they have shown ..). I always try to treat everyone equally and be kind, despite my actual emotions towards them. However, on the rare occasion it does happen, I try to brush it aside or become avoidant. If I am stuck and have to talk about it, I usually just tell them that I don't have a favorite person. It is hard for me to have just ONE favorite, or a select few, so it's more of a "greater liking" to someone.
Of course I choose favorites. I think everyone does to a degree. The thing that I think matters is how much do you show it. Do other people know who my favorites are? I can almost guarantee a no. I don't see who is my favorite in global, nor do I pay more attention to them in global. My favorites can tell who they are by how much I talk to them. I have around 10-15 favorites, if not more, on the server. These players most likely don't even know they're my favorites. So, choosing favorites isn't an issue, just don't make it obvious.
